For some reason, our society has determined that real men are supposed to be pigs. Men aspire to it. Women have come to accept it and many times expect it. People say that men just can’t help it. That it’s in their DNA to be that way…and that there’s really not much anyone can do about it.
How is a young boy who is growing into a man supposed to know how to act in a world that turns a blind eye…even glorifies the horrific behavior of our society’s most notable men. Movie celebrities, sports stars, musicians, politicians, and big business men move about “conquering the world” and desecrating everything that is holy in their path.
Notable male public figures are consistently treating women physically, verbally, and emotionally as if they were no more than livestock or play toys. These men think they can say or do whatever they want because of their wealth and status… their power and popularity. They look at women as disposable and believe they can “check out of relationships with women after they turn 35.”
About 4 years ago, my wife and I took in a stray purebred female German Shepherd. We later found out that this dog had been bred up to 4 times and kept in an outside chain link kennel for her entire life. She wanted to get out so bad that she had a holes in her teeth and gums that were infected because according to the vet, “she was trying to chew her way out of a cage.” Someone had dumped her in the hills after she was deemed no longer useful. I wonder how many women sit in silent agony as they try and claw their way out of their own mental cages that have been heaped upon them by a society of men who have neglected to treat God’s crowning creation with dignity and grace.
In just the last week, I heard one of the NBA’s most notable superstars and the next possible President of the United States talk about threesomes and orgies as if it were common place. As if that’s just a standard among men. I heard them then justify their discussion of these items as if it’s just “locker room banter” where men get together to talk about the trophies on their shelves or the horns on their wall. It’s disgusting and embarrassing to the gender. Week after week we hear similar stories and it only seems to be getting worse.
There are too many men…acting like boys, and too many boys with a convoluted idea about what it means to become a man. If we don’t redefine what it means to be a man before the next generation of boys grow up to date our daughters… we’re going to see sadness within them unlike this world has ever seen.
The media and others like to trash Mormons… but here’s a portion of what a young Mormon boy between the ages of 12-18 memorized and recited on a regular basis in church when I was growing up:
Prepare to become a worthy husband and father
Give proper respect to women, girls, and children
Can you imagine if there were more kids learning those two phrases in church? Maybe we just need more Mormons. You can be the judge of that. But what we don’t need are more men who think that they are God incarnate, walking the earth like lions on the plains.
We don’t need men that are unsatisfied with a woman because she’s “past her prime.” We don’t need men that look at love as just a game, who think they can go around breaking the hearts and souls and minds of women across the world. We don’t need men who have threesomes or foursomes or whatever the carnal mind can conjure up.
But what we do need, as D. Todd Christofferson recently said is for us to “arise from the dust of self-indulgence and be men!” Real men who are willing to step up and oppose the forces that are trying to turn the image of man into hard, callous, conscious-less, pigs. Real men who have morals and standards and respect for God’s commandments and for basic human dignity. Real men who can lead the next generation of kids into a virtuous adulthood.
Real men are husband to one wife, and dedicated to protecting and defending womanhood. Real men are committed, loyal, and respectful to all women, and especially “the woman” of their life. Real men set a good example for their kids and are mindful of the repercussions of their words and actions. I was recently researching the chapter in the Bible that George Washington placed his hand on during his inauguration. That’s an interesting story in and of itself. But while researching, I found that President Bill Clinton placed his hand on Galatians 6:8 of a Bible given to him by his grandmother. That verse reads “For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.” Go figure…
Real men are not a bunch of Al Bundy’s (if you can remember back that far) who sit on the couch, drink beer, and degrade women. Yet this is exactly what society wants you to think. As much as the notable men of our day are disgracing women and children, they are disgracing the gender of men even more by their actions. This is not how “men” are suppose to act. It’s not how men are supposed to talk. It’s not what men are supposed to do. It’s not how we want our sons to grow up! And too few people really stand up to condemn it. We just let these “stars” and “idols” do what they want. We give them a pass, make an excuse for them, and just keep worshipping. It just nuts.
Men and women buy into it. They watch and crave sleazy shows, hang on their sleazy words, allow them to become thought leaders just because of how they look… or because they can throw, catch, hit, or shoot a ball… when in reality they know nothing! We hold them up and buy what they’re selling and all the while they’re just laughing at us all the way to the bank.
Simple, good, and virtuous men need to step up and let their voice be heard in opposition to those who are giving men a bad name. We’ve got to redefine what real men say and do in both public and in private. We’ve got to restore trust in the gender… and we’ve got to do it soon.