My grandma died about a month ago. She was like a second mom to me. The one thing I’ll never forget was her relentless plea with us to “be of good cheer”.
At the end of the day, everyone on earth wants just one thing. Happiness. But so many people struggle to find happiness because the steps to attaining it are so misunderstood.
If you know someone that needs help being happier, it’s time to issue the 30 Day Happiness challenge. It won’t require money, fame, a perfect body, a brilliant intellect, or medication. Here are the steps you’ll need to take for 30 days straight. I can promise that you’ll be a happier person in 30 days and you’ll start to see positive things happen in your life.
1. Take A Shower [Body]
I don’t know about you, but I love to take showers when I’m not feeling great. What I’m suggesting here is more than just a long hot shower though. I’m suggesting a full blown 30 day physical cleansing.
Over the past year I’ve been feeling physically horrible. For some reason…I got in the habit of eating dessert after almost every lunch and dinner. I was about to go to the doctor because my stomach always hurt but figured I’d give eating better a try. So…my wife and I took 30 days and decided to eliminate bread and starchy simple carbohydrates. We also eliminated sugary drinks and desserts for these 30 days. It was a challenge for the first few days. I had sugar withdrawal headaches for about 3 days like never before…but soon I was feeling the best I had felt in years.
I believe I had been cramming so much artificially processed and preserved food into my belly for so many years that it was literally making me sick. It’s very hard for me to smile, be happy, and treat others the way I’d like to treat them when I feel like a run down mess.
I also started exercising everyday. It isn’t easy to force myself to start a workout in the morning, but you and I know that awesome feeling that comes from being done with a good workout. You feel like a million bucks. It doesn’t matter how “out of shape” you may be. Even walking for 20 minutes will leave you feeling better than you’ve felt in years!
2. Stop Studying Unhappy People [Mind]
“The average American watches more than five hours of live television every day.” That means that most of us are filling up a good majority of our free time “studying” the lives of media personalities.
Quit wasting your time worrying about the Kardashian’s butts. I believe that about sums up the sorry state of Hollywood and it’s media. Most people know more about celebrities and sports icons than they do about anything else. They’ve memorized the “glamorous” life of the the people that win the coveted gold statue and live in the big mansion. When you watch the shows on TV…you see everyone smiling, laughing, and having a good time. What people don’t see is what happens when the director yells, “cut”. Many of those people are not happy. It’s all a decoy…to get you enthralled with a false sense of reality. The goal is to keep you coming back for more.
So…step two is to turn off the TV.
The underlying purpose of this step is to get you doing something productive with your life. No one can be happy when they feel worthless. It’s hard to smile and and feel confident when you know that you’re wasting your talents in a recliner having poured over each issue of US Weekly and People Magazine.
James Allen wrote that a persons “mind may be likened to a garden which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, it will, bring forth.”
You get to choose whether you want weeds or beautiful fruit.
3. Say Something Nice To Everyone You Meet [Spirit]
Do you realize how different your life would be if you made it a rule to say something genuinely nice about everyone you come in contact with. Do this for 30 days… and oh my gosh…your life will change forever.
There’s a man that I come in contact with on a frequent basis. His name is Vern Parker. The guy always leaves me better than he found me. I can’t think of a time that I have shaken his hand and he didn’t find something to say that made me feel good. Why do I write about a person like Vern Parker?
Consider this quote from Benjamin Franklin. “If you don’t want to be forgotten, as soon as you are dead and decayed; either write things worth reading, or do things worth writing about.” I don’t know if Vern has ever written anything noteworthy…but what he does every time I see him makes me want to write about him.
The only way to truly lift yourself up in the eyes of others is to lift others up first. The very process of lifting will invigorate your mind and your soul.
It will be impossible for you not to smile while you’re saying something nice to another person…and it will be impossible for the person receiving the compliment to not smile. You’ve just left a perpetual trail of smiles that brings a certain level of immortality to your name and face. It’s much easier on your soul to like and to love than it is to spite and to hate.
That’s it! Three little steps for 30 days.
- Take care of your body so that you can feel good enough to do things. [Body]
- Don’t waste your time doing things that stifle your progression and waste your talents. [Mind]
- Be a ray of sunshine for those you come in contact with. [Spirit]
Take 30 days and try it out. Your body, your mind, and spirit will change for the better and lasting happiness will be yours.